It can sometimes feel like a three ring circus. Once you announce that you're getting married, it may sometimes feel like everyone wants in on the act. Your mother knows what's best for the menu; your mother-in-law disagrees and wants the reception somewhere else. Your parents insist that all your siblings must be part of the entourage.

First thing: take a calming breath. Relax, and then get a great wedding planner. They will help ensure that you have the wedding details from gown, shoes, car food and every little detail of your wedding goes off without a hitch (or else!). They truly are your best friend when it comes to getting your day to be as you want it.

Speaking of best friends, how about your own? While you may be close to your siblings, the question is: are they the person who you want to be by your side as either the best man or the maid of honor? The privilege and honor of bearing either of these two roles is given to the person to whom the bride and groom can rely on the most, usually the one who has been with them through most of their difficult life experiences.

Keep in mind the role isn't just a decorative one. These two really will have to work to get the couple get through the ceremony, from helping calm the wedding jitters, planning the bachelor/bachelorette party, ensuring that the rings are ready to be given when called for and of course, giving the toasts.

Bottom line: choose the ones you want to stand up with you. If it makes you happy to have someone in your entourage, then that should be good enough for everyone. Oh, and yes! They can be your siblings.