Can you imagine those peer-pressured, awkward years in high school without someone to talk toa best girlfriend, a sister or a radical aunt? Ironically, thats the time when youre most centered on yourself, and yet its precisely when you need to connect with others. In the book, Girlfriends, authors Carmen Renee Berry and Tamara Traeder state, They (girlfriends) are not only essential for coping with our day-to-day frustrations or sharing private jokes, they help us limp through a crises and, in the long run, help us grow as women and human beings.

While there is an inherent emphasis in our society on individuality, a womans path in life is not meant to be traveled as a lone Goddess. The connection you make with others, whether they are friends, family or strangers, is what gives your life meaning. With the exception of some religious orders, in which monks vow to live in solitude, most of us need other people (or at least a pet) to add texture to our lives. Studies show that social connections have a positive effect on our well-being. Research noted in the Girlfriends book proves that a womans development is very much tied into the personal connections she makes in life, whereas a mans development relies more upon his independence and self-reliance.

Some say the Internet is the ultimate connection for everyone in the world. The Internet cannot, however, replace companionship, because it disconnects you from emotions and spirittwo important feminine traits. Email can never replace the spectrum of emotions created by the physical interaction with another human being. The Internet will not teach your children how to listen to the sound of a voice with their hearts, or how to hug a friend who is hurting.

Face to face connection with others is nourishment for your soul as much as food and water are for your body. A couple of years ago, I started attending a womans meditation group thanks to a connection from my good friend Jenai, who happened to meet Simone, the woman who leads the group, at a book signing and then told me about her. (Jenai and I got connected while volunteering for a non-profit teen girls event and then became close friends.) The women in the meditation group were from a wide range of ages (from twenties to sixties) and spiritual beliefs (from Buddhist to Christian). Most of them didnt know each other before joining the group. When we meet, we spend timing chatting about whats going on in our lives, eating, choosing tarot cards and, of course, meditating. I dont usually see any of these women outside of our group, and yet I feel closer to them than some friends Ive had all my life. We are supportive of one another, non-judgmental, and very-much connected on a spiritual level as women and as Goddesses. I try never to miss my meditation group, because I always leave with a full and grateful heart. Like chocolate, I crave that interaction, and sometimes I get to have both. In fact, one night, all of us brought one chocolate dessert to share!

The connections you make during your time on earth are like a million lifelines floating in a vast oceaneach with its own unique life preserver, only a thought away from embracing you. When your world is turned upside down and you want to crawl into a shell, the best thing you can do is reach out for one of those lifelines. Helen Keller said, Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light. All it takes is your desire to connect.

5 Ways to Make Connections:

Make small talk with a stranger.

Research your family tree and call a long lost relative.

Join a group that meets regularlya mothers club, meditation class, womens group.

Phone a girlfriend you dont see oftenrather than sending an email.

Spend quality time with your family.